Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 4 – Gentleness (Matthew 11:29)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 4– Gentleness (Matthew 11:29)

Memory Verse:

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart.” – Matthew 11:29

Lesson: Gentleness is serving with love

Bible Story: John 13: 1-20

It was the day before the Passover festival, and Jesus just had supper with his disciples. Judas was about to betray Jesus, but Jesus knew that the Father had given him complete power and that He was going to return to the Father soon. So Jesus rose from the table and poured some water onto a washbasin. He began to wash his disciple’s feet and wiped them with a towel which he tied around his waist. When it was Peter’s turn, Peter objected, but Jesus answered, “If I do not wash your feet, you will be no longer my disciple.” Upon hearing this, Peter then said he wanted Jesus to wash not only his feet, but his hands and head also!

Jesus told them that those who have taken a bath are clean and only need their feet to be washed. And he also said that all those present were clean, except one, because Jesus knew one of them was the betrayer.

When he had finished, Jesus explained what he did. Verse 13-16 tells us this, “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.”

Points to Ponder:

  1. The act of washing another person’s feet is a truly humbling experience. During Jesus’ time, it was something that was usually done by non-Jewish slaves. But in this account, we see the Son of God himself, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, taking on the role of a very lowly servant and instructing the disciples to follow his example. Jesus tells his disciples that because their Lord and Teacher served them, so too must they be willing to show sacrificial love by serving others in the same way.
  2. The human kings that came before Jesus (and even current world leaders as well) acted superior to their subjects and ordered everyone around – they expected to be served. But Jesus wanted to show a better way to lead – and that is to be a true leader, one must be willing to humble oneself and to serve others. And thus Jesus presents to us a great challenge that can He repeats in 1 John 3:16, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”
  3. Let us be reminded that “humility” is the attitude of the heart that produces an outward manifestation of “gentleness.” The apostle Peter learned this well when he remind us of the truth, “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” (1 Peter 5:5)
  4. The apostle Paul writes in Ephesians 4:2, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Truly, it all goes back to ‘LOVE.’ It is when we seek to imitate God’s love as demonstrated by Christ’s sacrifice can we find rest in our souls and peace in our hearts. The Lord Jesus himself tells us this, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29)

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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 3 – Gentleness (Titus 3:2b)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 3 – Gentleness (Titus 3:2b)

Lesson: GENTLENESS (Be considerate)

Memory Verse: Be gentle toward everyone.” – Titus 3:2b

Lesson: Gentleness in this verse is taken from the Greek word “epieikēs” (pronounced as epi-yay-keis) which means “suitable” or “fair.” It implies acting in a manner that is moderate and careful; it is responding in a way that is not harsh nor quick to judge. Rather, being “gentle” in how we treat others is a way of letting God’s love flow through us and be experienced by the people around us. It is “loving our neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). It is also the same word used in the following related verses:

“Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, “to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone.” – Titus 3:1-2

This shows us that being “gentle” means – it is being considerate of others. In other words, it is being conscious about how our words and actions can affect others, and it implies taking that extra step to be careful with what we say and do so that we do not hurt other people’s feelings.

“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” – James 3:17

The KJV version translates the word “considerate” as “gentle.” Notice the following similarities:

Titus 3: 1-2 James 3:17
be subject to rulers and authorities and be obedient submissive
be ready to do what is good full of… good fruit
slander no one Impartial and sincere
be peacable peace-loving


Gentleness is then best viewed along with these other virtues or characteristics which go hand-in-hand to show us a more complete picture of what it means to be a “gentle Christian.” It is something which we should remember not only when we are with good people; but more so when there are others around us who hurt us or cause us much stress.

Even in correcting others, the bible tells us to do it gently – because God calls us to be humble and recognize that none of us is perfect and we have “different measures of faith” (Romans 12:3). It is acknowledging that though some may seem better than others, the truth is, an honest estimate of ourselves would show us all to be living way below God’s standard – which is holy and perfect – a standard only Jesus was able to meet. Jesus actually tells us to learn this virtue from him, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29). Therefore, we leave it up to God to judge; our role is to encourage one another and to be gentle and kind and most of all, to pray that God will touch people’s hearts and bring them to repentance and belief in Jesus Christ so that they might be saved.

And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.” – 2 Timothy 2:24-26

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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 2 – Gentleness (1 Kings 19:12)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 2 – Gentleness (1 Kings 19:12)

LESSON: GENTLENESS (The Spirit’s still, small voice)

Memory Verse: “And after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice.” – 1 Kings 19:12 (NKJV)


In 1 Kings 18, Elijah, a prophet of God had a “showdown” on Mount Carmel with the prophets of Baal, wherein they set up two altars and declared that whoever is able to call on their god to bring down fire on the sacrifice is the true God. Sure enough, even when 450 prophets of Baal cried out to their false god from morning to evening, shouting and dancing and even slashing themselves as was their practice when offering sacrifices, nothing happened. But when Elijah had the people pour water on the sacrifice and drench the whole altar in water, he simply prayed that God would show the people that He, the Lord, is God, and fire fell from heaven and burned the sacrifice, the altar, even the stones and soil and dried up all the water. This miracle resulted in the Israelites’ repentance and they killed all the false prophets. This also greatly angered King Ahab’s wife, Queen Jezebel, so much that she sought to kill Elijah, and Elijah ran for his life and hid in the wilderness to escape Jezebel’s wrath.

Here we find Elijah after all his running and hiding. He was feeling very much sorry for himself and he didn’t know what to do. But God had a message for him; a plan, a message and a word of instruction; and in Elijah’s case, this is how He let His presence be known.

Bible Passage: 1 Kings 19:11-12

Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice.”

Points to Ponder:

  • When we are troubled, we sometimes want God to make all things right again and we wish for miracles to happen so that all will be well. We want to feel His presence through a supernatural experience, thinking that it is through feeling, seeing and hearing great and amazing things will we know He is with us.
  • The Lord is able to make Himself known in wondrous ways, such as fire from heaven or as we know from the history of God’s people, through the parting of the Red Sea or manna from heaven. He is able to show His glory in all it’s grandness and magnificence and with so much power that people are left in awe of His majesty.
  • But when there is a conflict inside our hearts, when the struggle in inward and we’re feeling lost and alone, God can patiently wait for us to calm down and choose to speak to us through a “still small voice.” Our God is both powerful and mighty, and yet he is also gentle. He is the God of peace and tells us, “Be still, and know that I am God (Psalm 46:10).”
  • Elijah was so troubled that even a display of spectacular things such as a great wind, earthquake and fire did not do anything to change his mood. Eventually, it was God’s gentle questioning and instruction that got him refocused on what he needed to do.


  • This “gentle whisper” or “still, small voice” can be a prompting which we hear in our spirit, much like our conscience. It prompts us to act according to God’s will. God also speaks in a “still, small voice” through the Bible. Scripture is the written Word of God and when we read it while seeking God’s will, often, God answers by leading us to a particular verse or story in the Bible that can be either a word of encouragement, a gentle rebuke or correction, the solution to our problem or a word of instruction on what to do next.
  • Our God always has a good plan; the solution to our problem; a greater purpose for our trials and sufferings, and He wants to make His will known to His children. We need to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit, and be still, so that we may be able to hear God’s gentle whisper in our hearts.

Prayer: (A prayer by Fr. James B. Reuter, S.J.)

LORD, Look down upon us, this day, this hour. Regardless of what has gone before, or what will come after, give us the grace to consecrate this time entirely to You—all the actions of our body and soul.

May all the thoughts that come to us be true.

May all the things to which our hearts go out be beautiful, with the beauty of God.

May all the things we want be good.

Give us the light to see Your will, the grace to love it, and the courage and strength to do it.

We ask You this through Christ Our Lord.


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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 1 – Gentleness (Proverbs 15:1)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 8 PART 1 – Gentleness (Proverbs 15:1)

LESSON: GENTLENESS (Gentle means being humble)


Memory Verse:

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1


Bible Story: David, Nabal and Abigail (1 Samuel 25)


David and his friends were staying in the Desert of Paran. While they were there, they were kind to the shepherds who were with them in the fields. Those shepherds were servants of a rich but foolish man named Nabal. Nabal had a wife named Abigail.


When it was time to shear the sheep, David sent some of his men to Nabal to ask him for a gift which he would be kind enough to give, considering that David and his men helped protect his sheep in the fields. Instead of giving a gift, Nabal insulted David, and this made David so mad that he planned to kill Nabal in revenge. When Abigail heard about this, she acted quickly and wisely. She gathered food and other supplies and went to David to make peace for Nabal.


With kind and gentle words coming from a humble heart, Abigail helped David to see it would be wrong for him to kill Nabal. She asked for forgiveness in behalf of her husband and through her careful gentle words, David’s heart was changed. In 1 Samuel 25: 32-34 it says,


“David said to Abigail, “Praise be to the Lord, the God of Israel, who has sent you today to meet me. May you be blessed for your good judgment and for keeping me from bloodshed this day and from avenging myself with my own hands. Otherwise, as surely as the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, who has kept me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, not one male belonging to Nabal would have been left alive by daybreak.”




When a meek or humble person decides to speak to an angry or highly emotional person, his initial goal would not be to prove who is right or wrong, but simply to show respect and kindness, even if the other person is using very hurtful words. This kind of gentleness is something that comes from the Holy Spirit, and to attempt to do it using only our own human abilities would be futile. It takes time and prayer and allowing the Spirit to mold us in order to bear His fruits.


In this story, we see how Abigail’s gentleness helped change the outcome of the situation. David was very angry, and harsh words would have only fueled his anger more. But kind and gentle words have a way of calming down an angry person.


Gentleness as a fruit of the spirit is more of an outward action, and it comes from a person’s inner attitude – being humble. Some might think that being gentle is a sign of weakness, but the truth is, it is “God’s power used in love.” When we are motivated by God’s love, then surely we can give a gentle answer in any situation and it brings the peace of God to whomever gets to hear it.


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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 4 – Faithfulness (2 Corinthians 5:7)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 4 – Faithfulness (2  Corinthians 5:7)

Lesson: FAITHFULNESS (We walk by faith, not by sight)

Memory Verse: For we live by faith, not by sight.” – 2 Corinthians 5:7 (NIV) / “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” – 2 Corinthians 5:7 (KJV)

Walking by FAITH: As we learn from Hebrews 11:1, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Faith is not similar to wishful thinking and hoping that things will happen the way we want them to if we are lucky. Faith is based on something REAL and TRUE – that is why we can have confidence that though we do not see it yet, we have received what we believed. The basis for our faith is God’s Word. We can illustrate this by looking at the story of how Jesus and Peter walked on the water from Matthew 14: 22-33.

The Story: Jesus had just finished teaching and feeding five thousand people. Jesus then told his disciples to get into a boat and go ahead of him while he stayed to pray. Later that night, while the boat was already far from land and with the wind causing the waves to pound on the boat, Jesus went out to them, walking on the water. The disciples got scared, thinking they were seeing a ghost, but Jesus cried out, “Don be afraid, it is I.” When Peter heard this, he replied, “Lord, if it’s you, tell me to come to the water.” “Come,” Jesus said. Peter obeyed, got down on the boat and walked on the water. But when Peter looked at the wind, he became afraid and started to sink. He cried out, “Lord, save me!” Jesus caught his hand and said, “You of little faith, why did you doubt?” Then the two of them climbed onto the boat and the wind died down. Those in the boat worshiped Jesus saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.”

The 3 Steps in Walking By Faith:

  1. Hear the Word – Romans 10:17 tells us, “Faith comes by hearing.” When Peter heard the voice of Jesus, faith came. The Word of God is so powerful that when we hear it, faith comes at that very moment. If we do not hear the Word of God, then we will not have faith. If we hear it often, faith grows. That is why reading the bible everyday and going to church and Sunday school regularly is important – this is how our faith is being built up.
  2. Obey the Word – Faith means obeying “right now.” Delayed obedience is disobedience. When we postpone obedience, we give the enemy time to take away the Word that we received or he may create opportunities to distract us and or cause us to doubt. We should hold on to our knowledge of the love and power of God; trusting Him that He knows what is best. That means there is no room for fear or doubt when we hear God’s Word telling us to do something.
  3. Look unto Jesus –Hebrews 12:2 tells us that Jesus is the “author and perfecter” of faith. When we act in faith, what will strengthen and sustain us is looking unto Jesus. Peter had faith because he heard the voice of Jesus telling him to come. As he acted on that faith, it allowed him to do the impossible – to walk on water! This reminds us about what faith is not: faith CANNOT be seen or heard or felt. Instead, faith has to be ACTED OUT. Peter trusted Jesus because he knew Jesus was his friend (Jesus loved him and would not allow him to be harmed) and Jesus was able to do miracles (Peter has seen the demonstration of this power). Peter started sinking when his eyes shifted from looking unto Jesus to looking at the wind and the waves (the circumstances around him that contradicts his faith). Our experiences – the things we see, hear, or feel are not connected to our faith. Faith comes from the Word alone. We do not have faith because of what we see happening around us – we have faith because God’s Word says so. When we accept, trust and obey the WORDS of JESUS, then we are also accepting, trusting and obeying JESUS.

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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 3 – Faithfulness (Romans 10:17)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 3 – Faithfulness (Romans 10:17)

Lesson: FAITHFULNESS – Faith in the Word about Christ

Memory Verse: “Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.” – Romans 10:17

BIBLE LESSON: The book of Luke tells us how angel Gabriel was sent by God to Mary. The angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.” (Luke 1:30-33).

Mary asked how could this be possible since she had no husband yet, and the angel told her that the Holy Spirit will be the one to give her a son. The angel continued to say that even Mary’s cousin Elizabeth who was said to be unable to have a child will have a son in her old age, because, “no word from God will ever fail.” Mary responded with, “I am the Lord’s servant. May your word to me be fulfilled.” (Luke 1:37-38)

Can you imagine how this must have sounded to a young woman? The whole idea of having a child that will be called “Jesus” which means “savior” is not foreign to Mary. This was because their people, the Israelites, have been waiting for this coming “Messiah” for a very, very long time, and they had the Old Testament Scriptures which is God’s Word and promise to them to prove this.

And so Mary believed in faith on the Word of God spoken to her by the angel Gabriel – a Word which was actually a fulfillment of the Old Testament Scriptures. And because she believed and allowed the Holy Spirit to come upon her, she conceived and eventually gave birth to a son – Jesus Christ.

Faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.” (Romans 10:17). This is how the bible tells us faith comes – by hearing God’s Word. That’s why it is important to go to church and to read the bible everyday – so that as we hear and read God’s Word, our faith is built up and grows. But for many people, the only Bible they will ever read is our lives – the lives of Christians who profess to believe in Jesus. That is why it is important that we understand that our lives are also a testimony of God’s Word at work.

Today, when we put our faith in Jesus Christ and believe the Word of God that we hear spoken to us or we read in the Bible, we become like Mary, who was blessed because of her faith in God. Mary heard, she believed, and she allowed the Holy Spirit to do its work and so she gave birth to Jesus. In the same way, we who have heard, when we believe the message of God and allow the Holy Spirit to work in our lives, we will also “birth out” Christ, – or more clearly, we will let the light of Jesus Christ shine through us that people will see Jesus is alive in us.

Romans 8:29 tells us, “For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.” This means God has planned that those whom He chose to hear His Word are also called to become like His Son, Jesus. This is our goal as we let the Holy Spirit work in our lives and seek to know God more and follow His voice – we are to become more and more like Jesus. By faith and as we yield to the Holy Spirit, we are changed day by day – from faith to faith and from glory to glory – until the time comes that when people look at us, they will see the image of Christ in us through the words that we say, the things that we do and the blessings that we share. These things allow people to see how Jesus is alive in us and how God restores hearts, renews minds and transforms the lives of those called to be “children of God.”

Challenge: When people look at you, do they see Jesus is alive in your life?


Our Father in heaven, we praise you and glorify Your name! You are a great God and Your Word is true. You graciously shower us with your goodness, love and mercy. Thank You Lord for choosing us to hear your Word, and as we hear it, may our faith be built up — and may we all grow more in the grace and knowledge of our Savior, Jesus Christ. Help us to choose to listen to Your voice and to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit, so that day by day, we are being transformed to become more and more like Your Son, Jesus. May the light of Jesus shine through us, that in all that we say, think or do, we would show the world that Jesus is alive indeed and He makes all things new and beautiful. Thank You, Father God, for allowing us to be Your children and covering us with Your love. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.

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Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 2 – Faithfulness (Hebrews 11:1)

Fruits of the Spirit: LESSON 7 PART 2 – Faithfulness (Hebrews 11:1)

Lesson: FAITH (What is faith?)

Memory Verse: Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” – Hebrews 11:1

Bible Lesson:

What is faith? The dictionary tells us that faith is “strong belief or trust in someone or something,” or “firm belief in something for which there is no proof.”1 Most of the time, we believe something because we’ve seen it. It’s quite natural to want some proof before we place our trust on something or someone. Faith is just the opposite. It means believing first, then seeing it happen.

The bible gives us what we need to have this faith. It is filled with stories that show us who God is and who we are in his sight, and how God always is true to His promises. He shows us through the lives of many people like Abraham, Noah, and Jesus how God can be trusted because He always does what He says He will do.

God promised Abraham that he would be made father of many nations, and Abraham trusted God’s voice. This is why even when God instructed Abraham to offer his son Isaac on the altar, Abraham still obeyed God because he had faith that God would do something; maybe even bring back Isaac’s life. Noah heard God’s voice and followed the command to build an ark even though there was no way to tell that there would be such a flood that would be enough to cover the earth.

Abraham and Noah believed God because they actually heard God’s voice. In the New Testament, We find people’s lives changed by faith in the one who shows us what God truly is – His Son Jesus. Jesus showed us the character and the heart of God which was to give people freedom from sickness, slavery, blindness, heartaches and any other oppression from the devil.

In a story found in Mark 5:24-34, there was a woman who had been very sick for 12 years who believed that if only she could touch the hem of Jesus’ garment, she would be healed. And sure enough, when she squeezed her way into the crown and reached out to the edge of the robe of Jesus, healing flowed through her body and immediately, her sickness went away. Jesus said her faith has healed her. She was sure that Jesus could heal her, and that show of faith was acknowledged by Jesus.

Indeed, throughout the bible, we find these many different stories of how people believed in the power and the Word of God and they received what they believed for. Because God is faithful, we can also put our faith in Him. We can believe, then receive.

When we pray with faith, even though we do not always see the result right away, we still believe we received. This is because our faith is not like wishing on a shooting star. A shooting star has no power to make things happen. But we know our God who holds everything in His mighty hand has that power. And when we pray according to what He says in His Word, we can be sure it will happen. That is praying with faith – praying knowing God will answer it according to His Word and His will.